You Change What Makes You Angry...

-
Have you considered this simple yet profound line? 

Think about what you allow to happen in life and you quickly come to find out you don't hate it. Whatever you don't hate, you will never change. Over the last decade spending time learning and also speaking in college classrooms across the country, noticing and dissecting the body language of the presenter or the quality of questions that came my way. I've experienced different teachers, coaches, and administrative philosophies. Along with the willingness of attention by those who filled the seats, mine included. The main desire or want that each one of those environments presented was most definitely expressed in the need to be happy. Every young face placing their focus on the message of the presentation or their personal daydreaming ultimately came down to the curiosity about what and how we could achieve happiness.

My purpose to understand happiness and what drove it was directed in all the wrong ways. It wasn't until I discovered that speaking to a room of people was never about me or the teacher. It was about the gift in which was brought. Organizations do not bring you in to teach because of who you are, they want what you have. This puzzling recognition drained me into asking myself...What is it that myself or teachers have?

I hope you stopped to pause and ask yourself that question. It should serve you well. We all have a gift and that search alone becomes your most impactful road of discovery. The more equipped you become at understanding your gift the more value it serves to the world. The higher the value, the further it goes. But the question remains, what is the gift?

As I touched on early in the post, I tried to solve the puzzle of happiness for years. Only to realize, happiness is nothing more than an emotion. It's part of the human experience. When times are good you're happy, when times are bad you are not. This is not something to be avoided or even saddened by. It is what makes us human. However, if you want to express yourself to the world more times than not it comes through anger. The disappointment in which you experienced along your journey pushed you to the point of change. You have become so unsatisfied with your health that you've decided to change. Your frustration with an educational process deeply impacted you to the point in which you wanted to change it. Change now becomes a series of habits that become rooted in your actions. If you can look at the habits you currently hold go back to the starting point in which they started. At that moment you find a lot of pain, a lot of anger.

In closing, the world isn't changed through happiness. It's changed through anger. You don't change what makes you happy. You change what makes you angry. This is your gift.

One love,
Harv

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Mind-Body Connection

-
We are mental beings, in a physical body, in a physical world. The mind is mental and is subjective. The body is physical and is objective. At some point they intersect. Due to our human nature, we happen to have both. To some degree, the two are tethered together, like two birds of a feather (am I rapping?). So how does this happen? How does the abstract, subjective, emotional, non-material world intersect with the concrete, objective, factual, material world? In human form, here is how: There is a chain link of interaction, starting on either end of the spectrum. Within this spectrum are 5 main factors that interact up and down the chain. Physical Level 1: Environment: The physical world. Nothing mental about it. Only physical matter. Physical nature. Everything on the Periodic Table of Elements. Level 2: Physical Body: Receptors. This is humans’ first interaction with the physical world, and happens on a physical level. Still physical to physical. We feel pain, we feel heat, we feel
Read more

Pulling The Weeds

-
Being an observer of human behavior for a living is equally rewarding and exhausting. Why? The reward comes from repeatedly seeing the triumph in our human spirit after tragedy, and from observing families and friends sharing love and growth together. The exhaustion comes from repeatedly seeing the human ego sabotage human decency or fracture relationships, and from seeing fear cripple the confidence or joy that should be the essence of our human experience. Pulling the Weeds. In order to grasp the full picture, it feels useful to first examine what behaviors do not fulfill us. If we can understand what the opposite of fulfillment is, then the path to fulfillment comes a bit more clear. By no means is this list comprehensive, but it includes a vast array of what it looks like when insecurities and disillusioned thought patterns make an appearance. Stagnant Unaccountable Angry Pessimistic Fixed mindset/stubborn Arrogant Fragile Physically unhealthy Insecure Unreliable Manipulative Contr
Read more

Life & Death Mentality Into A Non-Life & Death Game

-
Now that we’ve (hopefully) agreed upon the fact that baseball is just a game, let’s break that down from a mental standpoint. Our brain is inherently wired for survival, so it takes a life-and- death approach by default. This happens even more so when we are stressed, under pressure, nervous, scared, or struggling. However, as we all have come to understand (hopefully),  baseball is a non-life-and-death game. Therefore, we have no reason to truly be scared, nervous, stressed etc.  If we take a non-life-and-death approach into baseball, we effectively sort of neutralize the part of our brain that spirals us into slumps, walking the house, or throwing a tantrum. Furthermore, if we just remain curious, we can play free from fear. If we play with the curiosity to see just how good we can be that day, everything becomes a learning experience; and if we love to learn, then we aren’t as afraid to fail; and if we aren’t afraid to fail, then that should give us a heck of a lot of confidence. No
Read more